Intra-personal Conflict:

Everyone has a set of psychological tapes automatic responses often learned in childhood that get triggered by high stress. Let's take Max as an example. He grew up in a family where questions were asked like accusations. As an adult, when people ask Why do you he actually hears, You shouldn't be doing that! When feeling accused, he blows up and overreacts. Max is usually a dependable employee who responds appropriately to situations. But under heavy stress, his old tape from childhood can suddenly start playing and it plays in stereo. Instead of answering a question, he'll argue back with statements like, You have no right to question me! or Just who do you think you are?î As a result of interpersonal conflict, his behavior is out of proportion to the triggering event.

Resolving Intra-personal Conflict 

When a conflict is intrapersonal, it is most often resolved through one-on-one coaching and feedback from trusted friends or professionals. Gradually, the individual works through their ìold tapesî causing the problem. Solutions are found by inviting the person to invent new, more effective responses to conflict situations. 

Managing Conflict:

It's a Skill Conflict resolution is a learned skill based on understanding the type of conflict at hand. For interpersonal conflicts, use the Conflict Styles Matrix to discover the different personality types behind the conflict. Knowing this, your group can separate conflicts from stress, then work toward resolution using the four steps of Originate, Negotiate, Validate, and Communicate. Finally, underlying problems can be addressed in ways that improve the skills of individuals as well as the group. The result? A stronger, happier team.

RESOLVING CONFLICTS:

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HOW I RESOLVED MY INTRAPERSONAL CONFLICTS:

"Sometimes, I'm also experiencing Intrapersonal conflicts. I always criticize myself and I always have lack of patience. At first, I don't know how to deal with them. I get angry into something or someone, and then later, regret it. When I'm experiencing this conflicts to myself. I don't know what to do. I just let myself do what it has to do but I don't think some conflicts have been solved. Then, when I learn how to handle my conflicts, I'm starting to feel the changes in me. Physically, emotionally, and socially. I know that I have lack of patience so when I get irritated easily, I'll just inhale and exhale and I'll count one to ten until my irritation subsides. And also, If I'm feeling that I may criticize myself again, I turn it into positive comments to inspired myself and to motivate myself more so that I can build enough self-confidence. Every conflict has a solution. You just have to believe in yourself and find ways on how to deal with them so that you can continue to enjoy your life."

-MirabelCortelPelayo 

• Intrapersonal Conflict occurs within an individual. The experience takes place in the person’s mind. Hence, it is a type of conflict that is psychological involving the individual’s thoughts, values, principles and emotions. Interpersonal conflict may come in different scales, from the simpler mundane ones like deciding whether or not to go organic for lunch to ones that can affect major decisions such as choosing a career path. Furthermore, this type of conflict can be quite difficult to handle if you find it hard to decipher your inner struggles. It leads to restlessness and uneasiness, or can even cause depression. In such occasions, it would be best to seek a way to let go of the anxiety through communicating with other people. Eventually, when you find yourself out of the situation, you can become more empowered as a person. Thus, the experience evoked a positive change which will help you in your own personal growth.

Intrapersonal Conflicts

Resolving Conflicts